Intimacy During ‘Iddah


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My husband just gave me the first divorce. It’s a hard time to go through both emotionally and physically. I am having strong sexual feelings and I want to go to my husband for getting them fulfilled.

I want to know if he can have intercourse with me without the intention of taking me back.

If he cannot have intercourse, then can we masturbate each other without the intention of reconciliation?

If he cannot masturbate, then can we fondle each other by kissing and touching?

(Question published as received)


In the name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-ramatullāhi wa-barakātuh

If your husband gave you one Ṭalāq Raj‘ī (revocable divorce), then all the above actions mentioned by you will constitute raj‘ah. However, if he gave one Ṭalāq Bā’in, then it will be Ḥarām for the two of you to have any form of intimate relations. If you wish to reconcile, then a new Nikāḥ will have to be performed.[1]

Note: In Ṭalāq Raj‘ī, the husband can only make Rujū‘ within the ‘iddah period. Once the ‘iddah has terminated, the Nikāḥ too terminates. If the couple then wish to reconcile, a new Nikāḥ will have to be performed.

And Allāh Ta‘ālā Knows Best        
(Mufti) Bilal al-Mahmudi

Concurred by,

Mufti Faisal al-Mahmudi


قال في الهداية: وإذا طلق الرجل امرأته تطليقة رجعية أو تطليقتين فله أن يراجعها في عدتها رضيت بذلك أو لم ترض لقوله تعالى: {فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ} [البقرة: 231] من غير فصل ولا بد من قيام العدة لأن الرجعة استدامة الملك ألا ترى أنه سمى إمساكا وهو الإبقاء وإنما يتحقق الاستدامة في العدة لأنه لا ملك بعد انقضائها (والرجعة أن يقول راجعتك أو راجعت امرأتي) وهذا صريح في الرجعة ولا خلاف فيه بين الأئمة

قال: (أو يطأها أو يقبلها أو يلمسها بشهوة أو بنظر إلى فرجها بشهوة) وهذا عندنا

الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي. دار احياء التراث العربي (2/ 254)

أحسن الفتاوى، ج ٥، ص ١٥٨. سعيد

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