Remedy for illicit Love

Advice of Hadhrat Mufti Mahmood Hassan Gangohi (Rahmatullahi Alayh)[1]


Respected Mufti Sahib,

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-raḥmatullāhi wa-barakātuh

I have become entrapped in an illicit affair. This has resulted in much problems for me. Kindly show me a way out of this problem.


Respected Brother

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-raḥmatullāhi wa-barakātuh

Be absolutely certain that nothing is achieved without courage. You will have to pluck the courage to get out of your predicament irrespective of how agonising and difficult it may be on your nafs. If indeed you wish to come out of this predicament, firstly distance yourself physically from the person whom you have fallen in illicit love with (there should be no chance of meeting or seeing one another – translator). In the last part of the night engage in the Zikr of لاإله الاالله five hundred times. The method of the Zikr is this: When saying لاإله turn the head towards the right shoulder while imagining that one has taken out of the heart all forms of impermissible love and thrown it behind oneself. Thereafter say الاالله (while bringing the head forward towards the heart) and imagine that the love of Allah Ta‘ala has been embedded in your heart. After this make Zikr of الله ُ الله ُ thousand times with the thought that the love of Allah Ta‘ala has now been firmly established in your heart. It is extremely important that you should disassociate yourself from the person in such a manner as if you never heard or thought of him/her. Never correspond with the person in any way.

May Allah Ta‘ala remove you from this predicament.

(NB: With regard to the Zikr, one should consult one’s own Sheikh. Different amounts of Zikr are prescribed to different people due to their varying conditions – translator). [2]

[1] (Hadhrat Mufti Mahmood Hasan Gangohi raḥimahullāh His life and works, Publsh. Ta’limi Board, KZN, Pg 249)

[2] (Tarbiyatut Taalibeen)