My Ungrateful Mother In Law



I got a question my mother in law came 3 years ago she stayed everything was ok, when she returned she was telling people I don’t give her food. Now my husband was telling me he want his mum to come back. an advice what to do please


In the name of Allāh, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-raḥmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

Respected Sister

Alhamdullilah, we are very pleased to see that you have referred to the Ulama for advice with regards to your discomfort.

In a marriage it is utmost important and vital that one be very balanced with regards to the in laws whether it be the girl’s parents or the boy’s parents.

As you have mentioned that you had taken good care of your mother in law and she still complained about you.

If one would comprehend in light of the Holy Quran; Allah Ta‘ala mentions in many verses of man being ungrateful to His bounties and favours showered upon man. We see that this is a very common attitude which man has adopted through the annals of history.If man could be ungrateful to his Creator most certainly he would be ungrateful to the creation.

You should overlook her attitude and ungratefulness and be supportive of your husband calling his mother back. This time serve her with the intention of pleasing Allah Ta‘ala only, you would automatically see her attitude changing and you would find that Allah Ta‘ala would place love in her heart for you. This would also have a great affect on your husband by which he would begin to love you more.

Furthermore this is a cycle of life, one day your children would get married and you would expect your son to take care of you, hence if you would adopt this blissful attitude whilst serving your in-laws, Inshallah a time would come when you shall reap the fruits of the seeds you have sewn.

We make Dua that Allah Ta‘ala grant you happiness in your life and grant you Sabr e Jameel and great rewards over your service and Khidmat. Aameen

And Allah Ta‘ala knows best
Mufti Luqman Hansrot
Fatwa Dept.

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